Dr. Tobler has authored two self-help books:
Princes & Toads: Men Worth Keeping ... Men to Throw Away, New and Revised Edition
Princes & Toads: Men Worth Keeping … Men to Throw Away, Companion Workbook
Since in real life you can’t turn a toad into a prince with a kiss, Princes & Toads, a user-friendly guide, offers sound advice to help you tell the difference between the two. It is packed with sharp-witted, self-contained tell-it-like-it-is “nuggets” that inspire self-confidence and self-respect. Although its title implies that Princes & Toads is for heterosexual women seeking men, its content is really about how to have a healthy and loving partnership irrespective of gender or sexual proclivity.
What makes this nugget format unique is that it may be used in a multitude of ways:
- You may peruse it cover to cover if you are interested in the complete process of preparing for, finding and keeping a loving and healthy partnership.
- You may just focus on the chapter that interests you: self-love, the hunt, nuts and bolts for keeping the relationship healthy, the decision, commitment, long-term relationships and marriage.
- You may benefit from skimming through the guide and attending to nuggets that speak to you.
- You may randomly open the book and select a particular nugget to contemplate as your "thought for the day.”
The Companion Workbook goes beyond an intellectual understanding of Princes & Toads offering concrete things that you can do and think about in order to improve your odds in preparing, hunting, deciding, keeping and committing to your partner.
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Despite her book's fairy tale title, Dr. Tobler's practical guide to finding the man of one's dreams counsels women to forget fairy tales and to concentrate on real life.
Tobler's straight-talking humorous book reads quickly. Her thorough knowledge of the subject shines again and again in her short paragraphs or "nuggets". This seasoned psychologist's understanding of how women sabotage their own search for Mr. Right consistently hits the mark prompting the reader to linger over the "nuggets" and to study her insights.
To prepare the Prince-seeker to find a man worth keeping, Tobler demolishes various myths that keep women unhappy and men irresponsible. She is optimistic - convincingly so - about any woman's prospects for success. Any relationship problem, in the upbeat practitioner's view, can be solved. All sorts of marital issues as well as how to know which man to keep and which to throw away are dealt with swiftly and provocatively.
If after reading the nuggets the reader still considers finding her Prince Charming unlikely, there is a section of practical hints on how to find the right psychotherapist.
Ultimately, Tobler's message is that developing a strong and healthy relationship with oneself is within every woman's power, though perhaps not all women can overcome early conditioning without professional help.
For any woman, self-love is the essential first step toward finding and keeping the right man with whom to enjoy a gratifying life-long relationship. A woman who regards herself highly would never dream of entangling herself in a relationship with a toad.
In the long run, it will be Tobler's kind of woman who will come to change the world. As she points out, if all women insisted upon good men, men would be forced to measure up!
Reviewer Janet Reno, author/writer